Song of the Week

If there is one thing that I’ve learned in my life, it would be that we all lose our path sometimes. Feeling lost, lonely and sometimes just a bit worthless. Luckily, there is a saying that goes as follows: There is a light at the end of each tunnel, and I truly believe in this. No matter what you did, or what you’ve been through, you will always  bounce back and become a little bit stronger each time. And I know that this is hard to believe when you can’t see what the future holds. I myself am still in this tunnel, not sure when my luck will turn again, but what I do know is that it’s coming! And it is going to be big! The most important thing is to keep moving forward, towards the light, towards the dream, towards the future you…

Innocent – Taylor Swift [Lyrics by metrolyrics.com]

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I guess you really did it this time

Left yourself in your warpath

Lost your balance on a tightrope

Lost your mind tryin’ to get it back

Wasn’t it easier in your lunchbox days?

Always a bigger bed to crawl into

Wasn’t it beautiful when you believed in everything

And everybody believed in you?

It’s alright, just wait and see

Your string of lights is still bright to me

Oh, who you are is not where you’ve been

You’re still an innocent, you’re still an innocent

Did some things you can’t speak of

But at night you live it all again

You wouldn’t be shattered on the floor now

If only you had seen what you know now then

Wasn’t it easier in your firefly catchin’ days?

And everything out of reach, someone bigger brought down to you

Wasn’t it beautiful runnin’ wild ’til you fell asleep

Before the monsters caught up to you?

It’s alright, just wait and see

Your string of lights is still bright to me

Oh, who you are is not where you’ve been

You’re still an innocent

It’s okay, life is a tough crowd

32 and still growin’ up now

Who you are is not what you did

You’re still an innocent

Time turns flames to embers, you’ll have new Septembers

Everyone of us has messed up too

Minds change like the weather, I hope you remember

Today is never too late to be brand new

It’s alright, just wait and see

Your string of lights is still bright to me

Oh, who you are is not where you’ve been

You’re still an innocent

It’s okay, life is a tough crowd

32 and still growin’ up now

Who you are is not what you did

You’re still an innocent, you’re still an innocent

Lost your balance on a tightrope

It’s never too late to get it back…

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You’re wearing what?

We all are guilty of getting a fashion fine at some stage of our lives. You know, that one trend that you wish you never followed…but did [and probably burned the photos afterwards]. And now you’re most likely afraid of making that same mistake. Well MyBFF’s, whether you are a fashion diva or don’t care about fashion at all, just remember that the rest of the world can see you. So make sure that you look in the mirror before you leave home and that you’re not guilty of breaking the following laws:

Leggings are not pants

Or else they would’ve been called pants? All they do is contribute to the embarrassing moments of a C.T, Butt crack or VPL (and keep in mind that photos do exist).

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The famous socks with sandals

Unless you are an athlete at an athletic game, you never, I repeat never wear socks with sandals! And I stress this point because I have broken this rule one too many times…haven’t we all?

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Accessory madness

Less is more…and chocolate is the only exception.

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Slippers in public

Time to wake up sister…unless you’re cinderella and your slipper is made out of glass, you have no excuse.

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High-waisted pants

aka The drooping butt syndrome. Now this trend looks absolutely fab from the front…and then you turn around. Let’s just say, keep this trend to skirts only ladies.

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The Spice Girls wedge

I call this trend the Spice Girls wedge, because I remember discovering it when I got my first pair of Spice Girls sneakers (we all had those). Point is, not even Kim Kardashian can make this shoe look sexy! So please don’t try this at home…

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Peeka boo…I see [almost all of] you

Kimora Lee Simmons states this perfectly: Less skin = more power. Now you don’t have to dress like granny, but wearing a belt as a skirt and a serviette as a shirt is a BIG no no. Leave some things to the imagination, it’s the only way guys will respect you.

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O the Knee-high socks days

I am ashamed to admit that I followed this trend…in all colours and patterns. I was the knee-high socks Guru and therefore you can learn from the expert: Never follow this trend! Because your mom won’t allow you to burn these photos and you still have to survive your 21st.

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Crocs

Need I say more?

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VPL (Visible Panty Line)

Taking any girl from hot to NOT…especially when this panty line is caused by a bloomer!

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Cause you’re amazing just the way you are…

Love to play sports = Jock
Don’t like sports = Loser

Study hard for good grades = Nerd
Don’t study hard = Washout

Dress beautifully = Barbie Doll
Don’t like to dress in the latest fashion = Ugly nobody

No matter what we seem to do, it is never good enough for the people in this world. The worst part is that this stereotype mayhem doesn’t disappear the day you leave High School. Instead it follows you around at University and in general life, creeping out in every corner where you avoid following the status quo.

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Famous singer Jay-Z once said: But I know any type of success breeds envy. And that MyBFF’s is the point!! We get so caught up in this horrible system, that we don’t see the bigger picture. The reason why people bully you and tease you is not because you are a loser or washout or whatever names they like to call you. I mean, if you really were one, why on earth would these people even care to inform you about it? In fact, you wouldn’t matter to them at all! But when you rise above the system and start to stand out, the problems start. Bullies and “mean girls” don’t like you stealing the spotlight and being happy. The reason? They’re not happy with their own lives and don’t have the guts to rise above, so instead they lower you to their level.

I’ve experienced this a lot in my High School years. I am one big fashion diva! Always wearing my own trends, bright colours and those heels that take you a little bit closer to heaven. This however, didn’t work for a lot of the other girls at the “get togethers” and parties. I stood out and I looked fabulous, filled with just the right amount of confidence. And that startled them, as they didn’t have the guts to pull this look off. Therefore, trying to bring me down to their level. What did I do in response to this? The next time I wore an even more fashionable outfit with higher heels. That’s how I roll, because haters gonna hate and I love getting a reaction out of them because I use it as my motivation. If you spend so much time and energy talking about me and trying to pull me down…boi then I must have something special! [Just like all of you!].

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Now I know that some bullies can be a lot worse in the stuff that they do and the stories they spread. The important part is to know your friends [the real ones] and believe me, they are all you need! Quality is better than quantity and it is these handful, that will stick to your side no matter what [I myself only had a few friends in High School but we had the best times of our lives]. So stories spread, and I realized who my best friends were, but I felt it was unfair that the people who didn’t know me, judged me by the stories they have heard. I wasn’t given a fair chance, but then my mom gave me the best advice ever. You can never talk a story dead, you can only live it dead. And so I did, just going on with my everyday life and showing people that I am a different person that what these people had spread me to be. This irritating my bullies even more.

You see, the things I was bullied about, like being smart and sticking to my values, I did even more! Because I knew that it is these things that challenged my bullies and intimidated them. It is these things that makes me unique and who I am as a person, which is PERFECT in God’s eyes. So if you have freckles, show them off! If you like playing the violin, do it in front of an audience! If your grades are important to you, study for your straight A’s! Do what you’re good at and show off what is unique about you! We all have a “freak” side. I cry in movies and tell the lamest jokes in world history [laughing at them on my own!]. But so what!? I am happy! I am me! And I am not going to change for anyone! Cause the people who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter!

EVERYTHING HAS BEAUTY, BUT NOT EVERYONE SEES IT!
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The right guy will love you just the way you are and your best friends won’t let you do these freaky things…alone! You will never be happy if you listen to what the world has to say and what they think. The movie “Fat like me” states it perfectly: If the world says mean things about you, it is their problem. BUT if you let it run your life, it’s yours. So why let it? I say be yourself, your true self. Use your talents and show off the things you are bullied about. When you are called fat: show off those beautiful curves! Maybe you’re called a geek: who cares! One day you’re going to be the boss [duh?]. So work it girl and don’t hold back. Bullies can only ruin your life when you allow them to. They’re unhappy so why would their opinion even matter? They are missing out on one amazing life! So just live yours! And remember:

Don’t let the world tell you who you are, the decision is yours

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Song of the week

Well, I don’ know how you feel my fellow BFF’s, but for me, nothing in the entire world beats the feeling of dancing! Even when you can’t dance and just move your body like an idiot! You know it! I believe every girl dances in her room every once in a while. It is what makes us happy and lifts our spirits when we need it [or in some cases, it just takes us over the “happy edge” when we’re in love]. So grab a partner and stare into his eyes singing: I just want you to dance with me tonight!

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Dance With Me Tonight lyrics [elyrics.net]

Ladies and Gentlemen we’ve got a special treat for tonight,

I’m gonna call my friend Olly up here to sing to you ladies,

Olly!

Let’s go man

My name is Olly, nice to meet you, can I tell you baby,

Look around there’s a whole lot of pretty ladies,

But none like you, you shine so bright, yeah.

I was wondering if you and me could spend a minute,

On the floor up and close getting lost in it,

I won’t give up without a fight.

I just wanna, ooh, oh baby,

I just want you to dance with me tonight,

So come on, ooh, oh baby,

I just want you to dance with me tonight.

We’re getting sweaty, hot and heavy in the crowd now,

Loosen up and let your hands go down, down,

Go with it girl, yeah just close your eyes, yeah.

I feel the music moving through your body,

Looking at you I can tell you want me,

Don’t stop keep going till the morning light, yeah.

When I saw you there,

Sitting all alone in the dark acting like you didn’t have a care,

I knew back then, that you’d be mine, and we’d be dancing the whole damn night now,

Ooh, oh baby, I just want you to dance with me tonight,

So come on, ooh, oh baby,

I just want you to dance with me tonight.

Break it down now, shake it like that, now bring it all back,

To dance with me tonight,

One more time, one more time, come on now.

Do your thing, everybody sing,

I just want you to dance with me tonight, yeah

I just wanna, ooh, oh baby,

I just want you to dance with me tonight

Ooh, just close your eyes, we can dance all through the night

I just want you to dance with me tonight,

And everybody sing, girl just close your eyes

We can dance all through the night

I just want you to dance with me tonight

So come on, just close your eyes,

We can dance all through the night

I just want you to dance with me tonight

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10 Reasons why you should let him go…

We all know those irritating articles about “How to survive a breakup” and “Easy steps for a healing heart”. Easy? Have these people lost their minds? [You know that’s what you’re thinking].

Well, out of experience, I know that these articles do nothing but serve as thorn in your side. The reason for this though, is because in your heart (and head), you are not ready to let him go. Why? Good memories. For some reason the good memories are all us girls think about when going through a break-up. Remembering how he called you at night when you couldn’t sleep or how he kissed you unexpectedly. My only question then is: why didn’t it work? And then comes the harsh reality: The memories weren’t all good, [were they]? So stop. Stop thinking about all the good stuff and replace them with the things that caused you to fight and break up. That is the only way you will get over him and realize that girl, YOU DESERVE BETTER! So stop making wishes upon a wishing star and start thinking about the 10 Reasons why you should let him go…

  1. The things that made you fight, whether it was not standing up for you or him allowing other girls to flirt with him.
  2. He wasn’t there when you needed him the most.
  3. He ran away and broke up with you, rather than staying and fighting to keep you.
  4. He made promises he didn’t keep.
  5. He made you believe in FOREVER (you know you believed it deep down).
  6. He was OK, when your world came crashing down.
  7. In front of his friends, he held his pride like he should’ve held you (Taylor Swift song lyric: Story of us. Go Listen now 🙂 )
  8. He doesn’t want you, but gets mad when other guys consult you.
  9. He goes out of his way to make you jealous after he had broken up with you [he wants to prove that he’s still “the man”].
  10. “You cry alone and then he swears he loves you” [The red Jumpsuit Apparatus: Face down lyric. Earlier post in my blog]. This reality is the hardest one to face and the reason why it is listed at number 10. We never want to hear this and we keep ourselves blind for this fact BUT: if he really, really loves you, you wouldn’t be alone right now and he would’ve done everything in his power to keep you not only in his heart, but in his arms

Maybe one day he will realize what amazing person you are, but on that day you will lay in someone’s arms who already knew it. And that is the true beauty about love…

Under the Spotlight: Michael Kors

One designer, one word: LEGEND.

Michael Kors is and always will be one of my favourite designers. Combining romantic and soft materials with glitz and glamour, and adding a little bit of edge, he has created some of the most beautiful [and sexiest] garments to date. So for those who haven’t experienced Mr Kors’ work, here is a little taster with some fast facts. Enjoy! 🙂

Get Kate Middleton’s wardrobe

We all know her, we all love her and we all want to steal her wardrobe! The Duchess of Cambridge makes fashion look easy and effortless, which leaves us all wanting her style as there is nothing more beautiful than effortless beauty. Kate Middleton has made this a trend, since the day she walked into Prince William [and our] hearts.

So for all you effortless beauties out there, I leave you with the key elements in achieving Kate Middleton’s [amazing] wardrobe:

Natural hair

Kate loves letting her hair down and wearing it in a natural [“flowy”] way. Achieve this by blowing your hair out with a round brush, turning it outwards [or inwards] at the ends.

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Wrap dresses

Kate Middleton made the wrap dress famous and left girls around the globe scouting the malls, in search of the perfect one for them. This type of dress works best when it is combined with a v-neck.

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Tailored Blazers

Kate is known for completing an outfit with a trendy blazer, slimming her body and making her waist look smaller. Search for blazers that are fitted and pulled in at the waist.

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Walking it simple

When it comes to shoes, Kate loves keeping it simple and elegant. Rock a pair of nude heels or ad a pop of colour to achieve this look.

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Want to shop for this look? Visit stores like Forever New, YDE, Sissy Boy, Country Road, Luella, Queenspark and ZARA. Happy Shopping! 🙂