Cause you’re amazing just the way you are…

Love to play sports = Jock
Don’t like sports = Loser

Study hard for good grades = Nerd
Don’t study hard = Washout

Dress beautifully = Barbie Doll
Don’t like to dress in the latest fashion = Ugly nobody

No matter what we seem to do, it is never good enough for the people in this world. The worst part is that this stereotype mayhem doesn’t disappear the day you leave High School. Instead it follows you around at University and in general life, creeping out in every corner where you avoid following the status quo.

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Famous singer Jay-Z once said: But I know any type of success breeds envy. And that MyBFF’s is the point!! We get so caught up in this horrible system, that we don’t see the bigger picture. The reason why people bully you and tease you is not because you are a loser or washout or whatever names they like to call you. I mean, if you really were one, why on earth would these people even care to inform you about it? In fact, you wouldn’t matter to them at all! But when you rise above the system and start to stand out, the problems start. Bullies and “mean girls” don’t like you stealing the spotlight and being happy. The reason? They’re not happy with their own lives and don’t have the guts to rise above, so instead they lower you to their level.

I’ve experienced this a lot in my High School years. I am one big fashion diva! Always wearing my own trends, bright colours and those heels that take you a little bit closer to heaven. This however, didn’t work for a lot of the other girls at the “get togethers” and parties. I stood out and I looked fabulous, filled with just the right amount of confidence. And that startled them, as they didn’t have the guts to pull this look off. Therefore, trying to bring me down to their level. What did I do in response to this? The next time I wore an even more fashionable outfit with higher heels. That’s how I roll, because haters gonna hate and I love getting a reaction out of them because I use it as my motivation. If you spend so much time and energy talking about me and trying to pull me down…boi then I must have something special! [Just like all of you!].

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Now I know that some bullies can be a lot worse in the stuff that they do and the stories they spread. The important part is to know your friends [the real ones] and believe me, they are all you need! Quality is better than quantity and it is these handful, that will stick to your side no matter what [I myself only had a few friends in High School but we had the best times of our lives]. So stories spread, and I realized who my best friends were, but I felt it was unfair that the people who didn’t know me, judged me by the stories they have heard. I wasn’t given a fair chance, but then my mom gave me the best advice ever. You can never talk a story dead, you can only live it dead. And so I did, just going on with my everyday life and showing people that I am a different person that what these people had spread me to be. This irritating my bullies even more.

You see, the things I was bullied about, like being smart and sticking to my values, I did even more! Because I knew that it is these things that challenged my bullies and intimidated them. It is these things that makes me unique and who I am as a person, which is PERFECT in God’s eyes. So if you have freckles, show them off! If you like playing the violin, do it in front of an audience! If your grades are important to you, study for your straight A’s! Do what you’re good at and show off what is unique about you! We all have a “freak” side. I cry in movies and tell the lamest jokes in world history [laughing at them on my own!]. But so what!? I am happy! I am me! And I am not going to change for anyone! Cause the people who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter!

EVERYTHING HAS BEAUTY, BUT NOT EVERYONE SEES IT!
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The right guy will love you just the way you are and your best friends won’t let you do these freaky things…alone! You will never be happy if you listen to what the world has to say and what they think. The movie “Fat like me” states it perfectly: If the world says mean things about you, it is their problem. BUT if you let it run your life, it’s yours. So why let it? I say be yourself, your true self. Use your talents and show off the things you are bullied about. When you are called fat: show off those beautiful curves! Maybe you’re called a geek: who cares! One day you’re going to be the boss [duh?]. So work it girl and don’t hold back. Bullies can only ruin your life when you allow them to. They’re unhappy so why would their opinion even matter? They are missing out on one amazing life! So just live yours! And remember:

Don’t let the world tell you who you are, the decision is yours

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Surviving the photoshoot

The next step in my Miss Spring Show journey was a photoshoot. This was always the most stressful part for me in competitions, as it is difficult to get that one perfect shot. Luckily I have watched a few programs, America’s next top model at the top of my list, in order to improve my confidence and skills.

These skills are necessary for everyone of us, as we are ladies and we do like to take nice photos, whether we are models or not. Therefore I want to share some of my tips with you.

Preparations

  1. Remember that everything can be in the photo, from head to toe. Therefore it is important to ensure that your nails are done, even if they are just clipped properly.
  2. Always shave as closest to the time of the shoot as possible. The quality of photos these days are excellent and so all the finer details are captured. You don’t want black hair sticking out that can cause embarrassment.
  3. Lay your whole outfit out on your bed. Make sure that it fits properly and that you will be comfortable to pose in all positions.
  4. When it comes to clothing you should avoid the following: boob tubes (you may appear naked in your head shots), polo neck shirts and knits (this will make your head look bigger) and too many patterns (you will be lost in the photo and the attention will be on the outfit and not you).
  5. Remember that if you have a dark skin, don’t wear all white just as you shouldn’t wear all black when you have a white skin. Cameras work with light sensitivity settings. This will cause that your head will be very dark and fade into the background in the first scenario. In the second scenario, it will make your face very pale and there will be too much light on it.
  6. Make-up: your make-up must be age appropriate, competition appropriate and outfit/style appropriate. It must be done darker as the flash of the camera reflects a lot of light. These two rules are very important: DO NOT wear a base/foundation with SPF in it as it will reflect the flash of the camera and make your skin pale and white on the photo. And DO NOT put heavy eye-liner on your bottom lash line. This looks very unnatural on the photo. Rather use your shadow as the liner in a dark brown colour as it will soften the line.
  7. Research different poses in magazines and on the internet and practice them in front of the mirror. When you know different poses, you are more confident and you will feel more comfortable in front of the camera.

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The shoot

  1. When you arrive on set, firstly greet the photographer with a handshake. Introduce yourself and be friendly. When you have talked to the photographer, you will be more relaxed around him or her.
  2. Always pose in different ways and positions, but it is important to let the one flow onto the next. Don’t go sit and stand and then sit again. Just turn your head slightly, move slowly and let every pose flow into one another.
  3. Flirt with the camera. This is the oldest trick in the book, but it really works! Pretend it is your boyfriend or your crush and flirt on.
  4. The most important skill I can give you is CONFIDENCE. When you are confident on set, your picture shows it! And there is nothing more attractive and beautiful then a confident women. Move around, smile with your eyes and believe in yourself. Be sexy and believe you are sexy. The photographer will feel your energy and the camera will love it!

Matric Farewell/Prom Make-up

Now that you have the perfect hairstyle to match your dress, it is time to complete the look with makeup. It is important to remember that your makeup look does not have to be the same style as your hair. A beautiful bun will look breathtaking with a smokey, sexy eye. Your makeup only has to match your dress and the overall look you are going for the night.

I’ve uploaded pictures of the different styles that might fit you. Just remember that everyone is different and you can adjust the look to your preference, for instance match it up with a different lip colour. Hope this will help you to make up your mind…

Natural beauty

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Irresistible eyes

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Pin up girl

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2012 Make up trend: Colour blocking

Try it if you dare…

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Your Heels keep it real

We can easily be misled by the way people act or talk, but your heels won’t lie. They can say more about your true character than you think. Your personality shines through them and they tell the truth about your character. Choose your favourite heels and discover what they say about you:

Studded heel

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If this heel draws your attention, you are a person that knows exactly what you want. You are not afraid to be different or to stand out. You are strong from the outside but deep inside of you is a huge heart filled with all the people you love. Your loyalty is one of your best qualities.

Sparkly heel

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You’re sexy and you know it! If this heel attracts you, you are the kind of girl with confidence and you’re fabulous. You love to dress fashionably and sexy. Boys are attracted to you because you challenge them and girls that are not your friends might be intimidated by you. You always stand out in a crowd and can’t care less about what other people say about you…I mean, you look great! So why would their opinion matter anyway?

Classic heel

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Elegant is the perfect word to describe you. You are a classy lady and most likely wear soft colours all year round. You have the best manners and always behave as a lady. A heart of gold is your best quality. Men have a lot of respect for you and girls feel honoured to be your friend…

Floral heel

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You are a girly girl and love the colour pink. You wear mostly soft fabric clothing and “pinkish” colours. A sweet personality is one of your best known characters and you generally act coy around boys. Like this heel, you come across as soft and romantic with a heart full of love.

High Fashion heel

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You are an absolute fashion diva! When a new trend arrives, you have it, wear it and own it. You love to dress up and perform. Peoples’ opinion mean nothing to you and you are not afraid to be who you are. Taking risks are part of your everyday life and you care about everyone. Friends love your energy and fun vibe. You truly are a fashion trendsetter…

Casual heel

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You are a happy-go-lucky type of person who loves sport and chilling with friends. When it comes to fashion, you keep it basic. This however, does not make you less attractive. Boys find your natural beauty appealing and sexy. You have a competitive side when it comes to sports and just about everything else. People enjoy hanging out with you because you are fun and adventurous. No challenge or fear can be big enough to scare you off…

To talk or to stop talking? [That is the question…]

We all know that there is a fine line between best friends and frenemies. Unfortunately, we don’t always realise which version our friends are until it’s too late. Therefore I have decided to make a list of when you should talk to your friend about something she did and when it’s time to cut the cord and stop talking.

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Talk

Stop Talking

She didn’t attend one of your important events like your party. She constantly has excuses when you want to hang out.
You are not sure whether you can trust her with one of your biggest secrets. You always need to think about what you are saying in front of her, afraid that she might tell.
Her number of messages and phone calls reduced over the past few weeks. She only contacts you when she needs something.
She doesn’t like your boyfriend. She flirts and secretly contacts your boyfriend.
She excluded you from an event or group. She forces you in doing things you don’t like or agree with.
She doesn’t support you as much through a difficult time. She tries to “fish out” all the details of your problem without caring about how you feel.

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Just remember the saying MyBFF’s: Don’t make someone a priority in your life if you’re only an option in theirs!

Best Friends

I came across this picture and realized that this is what real friendship is all about!

You know you’ve experienced this…

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